I am enjoying a few moments of peace :)

I had my first and what I thought only via IVF at 41 (a DD) then a year later became pregnant with our son by “accident” I guess. 🙂 We weren’t trying but also not not trying if that makes sense. Little guy is going to celebrate one year here in late January and I will turn 44 in April. Living in WDC this is normal actually, and not considered unusual so I wantyou to know that whatever age you are it’s awesome to have a child and you will enjoy him/her, I’m sure! 🙂
You are on the right path and have a good attitude. I don’t really have any DR advice as we are debt free at the moment and trying to build both our retirement savings and college savings and also a “things to fix around the house” fund….slow going but we are committed.
Take care of yourself — baby comes first! I say this as my little ones are napping and I am enjoying a few moments of peace. 🙂

Congratulations on new son.

It sounds as if your mom is a lovely woman; personally, I know how hard it is saying no to your older children, and hopefully, she’s learning from you as you work through these boundary issues as well. The most important thing is that you have to be a bit selfish for yourself and your own health and well being right now. It’s going to be harder with your hormones being a bit out of whack as they tend to be during pregnancy, but the bottom line is that you need to do what you feel is best for you and your marriage and that growing little baby. Stress is the last thing you need right now, so address whatever matters need to be addressed, but do it in a kind and a gracious manner, and then stick to your guns (yeah, I know, easier said than done).